Blog — Worry

Name that (Worry) Tune: How to Catch Worry Early, Before it Catches You

Worry operates stealthily in our lives because we just start reacting to it without realizing it. When you name your worry voice, recognize the tune, you can quickly decide if this is the soundtrack you really need to your life, or if you'd be better served by changing the channel.

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Freeing Yourself from Anxiety-- the video!

Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: The Video is here! 

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Great Interview with WNPR's Faith Middleton

 

I had a great conversation with Connecticut Public Radio host, Faith Middleton, on April 27th, click here to listen to the program. 

 

 

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Anxiety 101: Don't Let Your Amygdala Ruin Your Day

Life is stressful enough. Worry really is optional. Check out this piece I wrote for Huffington Post on how to not let your amygdala (your worry brain) ruin your day. 

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Lies My Anxiety Told Me: The Bear, The Psychologist and an Impractical Purple Skirt

bearPeople are always asking me why I became a therapist, and an anxiety therapist to boot. Perhaps this will explain:

I've had two close calls in life. One with a bear, one with a purple skirt.

First the skirt. The year was 1968. I was in first grade.

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4 Steps to Anxiety-Free Eating this Holiday Season

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When we’re stressed about the holiday rush, who is there to greet us? All those cookie trays and eggnog. And the worry about how much weight we are putting on may drive us back for another serving. How do you avoid holiday stress from literally weighing on us? Armed with a few powerful strategies, we can combat those fears and really enjoy ourselves.

 

 

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Talking to Our Children About Tragedy: Fostering Safety, Not Fear

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When talking with our children about tragedy, we can choose to emphasize grief and healing rather than fear and danger. Our purpose is to help our children recover and be resilient, not to be frightened of their lives. Here are several ideas to guide you in talking about the school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut; these suggestions can be useful in general when helping your child through traumatic events.

 

 

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6 Steps to Setting Sustainable New Year's Resolutions

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Chances are – the average New Year’s resolution list looks the same as last year’s: lose weight, stop smoking, save money and find your soul mate. While 45 percent of the U.S. population usually set goals, one-fourth never succeed.

We think this year is going to be different, that we are going to accomplish our goals. Self-improvement is a good thing; the problem is we make resolutions that are vague or that we can’t control, which leads us to feeling disappointed when we don’t succeed. Allowing for a little imperfection in your resolutions is a good thing. Here are 6 steps to setting sustainable resolutions this year.

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When Daily Stress Gets in the Way of Life (New York Times)

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"Anxiety is a fact of life. I’ve yet to meet anyone, no matter how upbeat, who has escaped anxious moments, days, even weeks." -- Jane Brody. I am so honored to have had the opportunity recently to speak with Jane Brody of the New York Times. She wrote an amazing article about how anxiety can take over our life. Please take a moment to read it and share with anyone it might help.

 

 

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Embracing the Power of Imperfection in Your Relationship

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Happy Valentine's Day. Yes, this is a day dedicated to love and connection, but if you're not exactly feeling it, don't worry! Maybe you and your partner got off on the wrong foot this morning and you're thinking-- "What's wrong with us, we're supposed to be happy, it's Valentine's Day!"  It's time for a re-think. If we don't fear the glitches and bumps in the road in our relationships, we may find that they are the very pathways to a deeper connection. Here's how.

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April is Stress Awareness Month: Six Steps to Have Less Stress

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Are you feeling stressed? Do things feel out of your control? Know that you are in good company, and more importantly, you are in a very good position to make a difference in your life and sense of well-being. It's not the stress, it's what you do with it, and there's a lot you can do! Check out this piece I wrote for Stress Awareness Month.  

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Overcoming Retirement Anxiety

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Retirement. Many of us fear that we'll never get there, others of us who are getting close to the magic 65, well, we're worried too! Is retirement so different from everything else in life that we have no idea how to manage it? Or, can the coping skills that have gotten us this far help us with this transition too? Short answer: we are more prepared than we think. 


Click here to check out this guest blog post I wrote on Forbes.com about beating the retirement blues.

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How to Not Let Anxiety Fake or Freak You Out: Dr. Chansky's Talk at Drexel

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How many times have we "what if'd" ourselves out of taking risks, only to find after the fact that our worst fears weren't even in the ballpark of what actually happened? How many times have we sort of known that all along, but can't seem to turn off the anxiety alarm in our heads? In a recent talk I gave at Drexel University as part of their Mental Health Awareness Week, invited by the student-run group, Active Minds, I spoke about how to not let your amygdala (the emergency control center of the brain) ruin your day or your plans-- or your life!  Click here to read highlights of that talk from this excellent summary in the Drexel On-line Newspaper, The Triangle. 

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Happy Birthday to Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Second Edition is Here!

freeing your child from anxiety revised editionHello all! The day has arrived, the Second Edition of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety is on the shelves as of today! You can check out the book on amazon by clicking here. Meanwhile, here is an excerpt to give you a preview of how anxiety disorders, though as many as 1 in 5 children, and 1 in 4 adults suffer from them, can be treated and even prevented. Here's to less worry all around. In your own head, and beyond.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Take Charge of Back-to-School Fears

back-to-schoolWhat's a parent's first instinct when a child is afraid? To reassure, to take away the fear, to tell your child that everything is going to be okay. If only that worked! In this post we see how asking your child the right questions about her fears can be even more powerful than giving reassurance, because it shifts kids out of worry mode and into thinking mode-- and that's exactly the mode they need to be in for school, and for life! Here's to a great school year for all!
 

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