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How to Not Pass on Stress to Your Kids

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Recently I had the pleasure of talking with my dear friend, Dr. Dan Gottlieb on his NPR radio show, Voices in the Family. His guests, Drs. Sara Waters and Wendy Mendes from University of San Francisco were reporting on their study of the transmission of stress from mother to infant. It was a great conversation, and you can listen to the program here. The take away message was very positive-- that parents can do so much to manage their stress and importantly "repair" their connection with their child if stress gets in the way-- through apologies, loving gestures-- and just spending time together. In otherwords, we don't have to pass on our stress, we can clean it up as we go. Here's a piece I wrote to share these ideas. 

 

 

 

 

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Homework is Stupid and I Hate Everything!

homeworkBack to school means to back to homework, and for many families that means back to homework battles. For the next couple of blog posts I will share ideas about how to get kids and families on track with that necessary evil, I mean, that vehicle for reinforcing learning-- homework!

 

 

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What to Do When Your College Student is Homesick

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This week as students are heading off to college, parents are wondering-- what do they do when their child is unhappy or homesick? Is it a sign of trouble, or just a normal sign of change? This is normal! Teaching your children (young adults) how transitions work is your new job. Here are many ideas to get you started.

 

 

 

 

 

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School's Out, Structure's In: How to Plan Your Child's Summer "Work Week"

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Please tell me I'm not alone, but every year when school lets out for summer, I worry (yes, I do) what are the kids going to do with all of that free time? So practicing what I preach, I know it's better to use my time planning than worrying, here's a plan to introduce a little structure into your child's summer vacation. Not too much, but just enough. It could help end the fights over screen time and make a better summer for everyone in your home. Happy summer all!

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What to do when your child starts mouthing off

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Don't you hate those "gotcha" moments, when (often in public, but audience not required) your child flings some words at you like-- this is lame, or, this dinner stinks, or, this vacation is boring-- and it takes all your strength not to fling some equally undesirable words back? Well, me too. Here are some ideas to get you out of the gotcha moment and make it a win-win situation for all. 

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Yes, Your Teen is Going to College, But Are They Ready?

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What a very exciting time for families of high school seniors. College decisions are being finalized and the future is looking bright. After the arduous journey of the last several years which has brought you to this moment, it is understandable that families will be breathing a deserved sigh of relief and ready to coast until August. My advice to parents? Coast not. Catch your breath, but then take this opportunity to help your student prepare emotionally for the transition. Hint: this may involve doing less laundry and dishes for them.... 

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How to Talk to Your Child (and Yourself) About Ebola

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Many parents are hesitant about whether or not to bring up the topic of the Ebola virus with their children, because they don't want to upset them, and more to the point-- because they don't know what to say because they're feeling overwhelmed themselves. Here are ideas about how to talk about Ebola by shifting away from the fears and to the facts, and even how to refocus on gratitude and compassion, the greatest antidote to fear.

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