Blog — Negative Thinking

Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Help for the Pint-Sized Pessimist

pint-sized-pessimistI can't do anything right! Everything is wrong! I'm so stupid! What's the point? Such is the inner monologue (and sometimes outer outburst) that children suffering with negative thinking can have on a regular basis. The trigger is often something as small as dropping a pencil, or making a mistake on a test. How do we help kids think less negatively and more accurately (and not get pulled into the downward spiral ourselves?) Here are some answers!

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Teaching Children to Succeed in Sports by Managing Their Mindset

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As an anxiety therapist who works with kids with perfectionism, especially around sports, I always appreciate when the Olympics come around. By watching these unparalleled feats of human agility, grace, strength and beauty and also seeing that things don't always go as planned, children can learn that excellence isn't the same as perfection and that true mastery can often be measured (in gold!) by how quickly one bounces back from disappointment and mis-steps. You'll learn in this blog post strategies to teach kids how to increase their mental agility in sports-- just like the pros.

 

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Homework is Stupid and I Hate Everything!

homeworkBack to school means to back to homework, and for many families that means back to homework battles. For the next couple of blog posts I will share ideas about how to get kids and families on track with that necessary evil, I mean, that vehicle for reinforcing learning-- homework!

 

 

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Spring Cleaning Your Mind: Clearing Away the Clutter of Negative Thoughts

DaffodilsHello all, welcome to spring! In the time that I started and finished these next two blog posts-- the first about spring cleaning for your mind, the second about spring cleaning your relationship-- the weather went from snow, to the balmy 70's, and now back to pulling out the coats and hats. If nothing else, all of these changes are helping us work on our flexibility! And this is really what our well being within ourselves and in our relationships is all about. Happy spring cleaning!

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Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking-- Second Edition Underway!

Freeing Your Child from Negative ThinkingIn 2008 I wrote Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking to give parents tools to help their kids learn how to outsmart the negative tricks the mind can play. Fast-forward 10 years and the number of children and teens struggling with negative-thought fueled depression and anxiety is multiplying at an alarming rate. Time for an update. I am embarking on a 2nd edition of Negative Thinking which will be released just in time for the new school year September, 2019. I'd love to hear your thoughts and requests for the Second Edition-- contact@tamarchansky.com, in the meantime, here's a synopsis of the steps and as always-- here's to less worry, and less negativity, all around!

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