Blog — Marriage

Freeing Your Marriage from Anxiety

Happy Valentine's Day! Nothing gets in the way of love like worry does. But you don't have to let worry wreak havoc in your relationship. Here's a piece I wrote for Huffington Post: Make Love, Not Worry.  

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How to Overcome Apology-Phobia

Given our propensity for hurting each other -- usually inadvertently through our clumsiness or our being inconsiderate -- getting good at apologizing should be standard-issue emotional equipment for membership in the human race. And it is. Any one can do it. Here are six strategies for letting those two most powerful words: I'm sorry, come out of your mouth. 

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8 Strategies to Complain Your Way Into a Happier Relationship

Could a toilet seat lid start a revolution or a romance in a marriage? Both are possible. The choice is yours. Learning how to work together in a relationship will take you where you want to go. Sometimes you've got to complain that the lid is up, if you want it down, but there are "best practices" in complaining which will help the work, work. Here's a piece I wrote for Huffington Post that takes your relationship beyond toilet seat lids, toothpaste tube squeezing practices and beds (made or unmade)--  to the real deal: honoring and respecting  each other's preferences.

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The Valentine's Day Post: How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Relationship

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It's almost Valentine's Day, and while we scramble to find the perfect gift, maybe we've already got it! Researchers at University of California Berkeley have found the secret to love and connection can be revealed in the words we use in our relationships. What's the word that packs the most power? The one that is woven through the conversations of happy couples? It's the word "we." Check out why. And happy Valentine's day dear readers!

 

 

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To Fall in Love Again, and Again, Ask Questions!

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Hello dear readers! A few weeks ago I started to write a post about what to do with the habits of your partner that well, aren't your favorite (enthusiastic chewing, unfortunate puns, socks just outside the hamper, you get the idea) perfect for Valentine's Day, right? But then I came across this wonderful love story in the New York Times Modern Love column by Mandy Len Catron-- "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This"-- and it inspired me to write this post instead about enlisting our curiousity rather than our anxiety when it comes to our most important relationships. I promise I'll finish the other post, too-- worry not! Happy Valentine's Day, all!

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New Year's Resolution for Your Relationship: More Kissing

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You may be wondering what kissing has to do with anxiety, and why I am writing a blogpost about it. I think we would all agree that the best antidote to anxiety-- that sense of threat and fear-- is connection. Sometimes the stresses of daily life interfere with our ability to connect and that disconnect can ripple out into the family. But connection and stability are contagious, too and children thrive in a family built on harmony and love. So, this new year's, resolve to bring more love and meaning into your home every day-- a simple kiss is a great way to start. Happy, healthy new year to all!

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