Blog — Love

Freeing Your Marriage from Anxiety

Happy Valentine's Day! Nothing gets in the way of love like worry does. But you don't have to let worry wreak havoc in your relationship. Here's a piece I wrote for Huffington Post: Make Love, Not Worry.  

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How to Overcome Apology-Phobia

Given our propensity for hurting each other -- usually inadvertently through our clumsiness or our being inconsiderate -- getting good at apologizing should be standard-issue emotional equipment for membership in the human race. And it is. Any one can do it. Here are six strategies for letting those two most powerful words: I'm sorry, come out of your mouth. 

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Embracing the Power of Imperfection in Your Relationship

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Happy Valentine's Day. Yes, this is a day dedicated to love and connection, but if you're not exactly feeling it, don't worry! Maybe you and your partner got off on the wrong foot this morning and you're thinking-- "What's wrong with us, we're supposed to be happy, it's Valentine's Day!"  It's time for a re-think. If we don't fear the glitches and bumps in the road in our relationships, we may find that they are the very pathways to a deeper connection. Here's how.

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The Valentine's Day Post: How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Relationship

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It's almost Valentine's Day, and while we scramble to find the perfect gift, maybe we've already got it! Researchers at University of California Berkeley have found the secret to love and connection can be revealed in the words we use in our relationships. What's the word that packs the most power? The one that is woven through the conversations of happy couples? It's the word "we." Check out why. And happy Valentine's day dear readers!

 

 

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To Fall in Love Again, and Again, Ask Questions!

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Hello dear readers! A few weeks ago I started to write a post about what to do with the habits of your partner that well, aren't your favorite (enthusiastic chewing, unfortunate puns, socks just outside the hamper, you get the idea) perfect for Valentine's Day, right? But then I came across this wonderful love story in the New York Times Modern Love column by Mandy Len Catron-- "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This"-- and it inspired me to write this post instead about enlisting our curiousity rather than our anxiety when it comes to our most important relationships. I promise I'll finish the other post, too-- worry not! Happy Valentine's Day, all!

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