Blog — Flexibility

Happy New Year! How to Make this a Great Year (Without the Pressure)

The way to make this a great year is to not expect it to be the best year ever.

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Making Expectations Work for You

You can’t always get what you want—The Rolling Stones

Why is it that this most basic of human truths, which we are exposed to from day one of our lives, is the hardest to grasp? Like trying to put a square peg in a round hole, it just doesn't seem to fit. If we can work some flexibility into our expectations, we may just find that the second most basic human truth, namely, that we usually get what we need, is always there for us at the ready. Let's see how.

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Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Help for the Pint-Sized Pessimist

pint-sized-pessimistI can't do anything right! Everything is wrong! I'm so stupid! What's the point? Such is the inner monologue (and sometimes outer outburst) that children suffering with negative thinking can have on a regular basis. The trigger is often something as small as dropping a pencil, or making a mistake on a test. How do we help kids think less negatively and more accurately (and not get pulled into the downward spiral ourselves?) Here are some answers!

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Kids and Sports: 8 Strategies to Take Charge of Disappointment and Stay in the Game

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Is your child an anxious athlete? Did you sign your child up for a sports team thinking what a good experience it would be, only to find... it's not. If you have a child whose stomach is in knots before a practice or a game, or who is miserable and so hard on him or herself when things don't go perfectly-- don't give up and don't let your child give up either! Check out this article I wrote about how to teach your child to become a resilient athlete.  It's not about lowering the standards, it's about lowering the stakes. 

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