Blog — Apologizing

How to Apologize: Overcoming the Fear of Saying Your Sorry

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I've been thinking about apologies lately and it reminded me of a blog post I wrote about a year ago on that very topic. How is it that apologizing-- the very thing that repairs relationships—the closest thing to a relationship magic wand that we've got— is so hard for us to do? One key is to shift the mindset and remember that though an apology is something that we give to another person, it is also something that we give to ourselves. We unburden ourselves, and can ground ourselves in the understanding that we don't have to hide our mistakes or imperfections, that it is through our vulnerability that we connect and connect most strongly. Another key is to remember that you are apologizing for what you did, not for who you are. And then of course it's helpful to keep in mind that people are generally very grateful and appreciative when we do apologize. So basically, apologies are a relationship win-win. Check out the blog post and happy, healthy apologizing! Click here to read the post.

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How to Correct Your Anxious Child

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Should you correct a child who is always worried about making mistakes, being in trouble, and having people mad at them? This is the question that parents of anxious children ask me every day. The answer is yes. In fact, the best place for anxious children to learn that being corrected or having someone mad at them is temporary, survivable, and much more rare than they fear, is at home where they are loved and cared for. Check out this post on how to practice resiliency-promoting discipline in your home, and lower the anxiety level for all.

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