Blog — Anxiety

Happy New Year! How to Make this a Great Year (Without the Pressure)

The way to make this a great year is to not expect it to be the best year ever.

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Freeing Yourself from Anxiety - Now Available!

Hooray! It's book launch day!

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Name that (Worry) Tune: How to Catch Worry Early, Before it Catches You

Worry operates stealthily in our lives because we just start reacting to it without realizing it. When you name your worry voice, recognize the tune, you can quickly decide if this is the soundtrack you really need to your life, or if you'd be better served by changing the channel.

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A Great Review for Freeing Yourself from Anxiety

Here's a lovely review from Blogcritics.org for my new book, Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: 4 Simple Steps to Overcome Worry and Create the Life You Want. 

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Freeing Your Marriage from Anxiety

Happy Valentine's Day! Nothing gets in the way of love like worry does. But you don't have to let worry wreak havoc in your relationship. Here's a piece I wrote for Huffington Post: Make Love, Not Worry.  

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Freeing Yourself from Anxiety-- the video!

Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: The Video is here! 

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Making Expectations Work for You

You can’t always get what you want—The Rolling Stones

Why is it that this most basic of human truths, which we are exposed to from day one of our lives, is the hardest to grasp? Like trying to put a square peg in a round hole, it just doesn't seem to fit. If we can work some flexibility into our expectations, we may just find that the second most basic human truth, namely, that we usually get what we need, is always there for us at the ready. Let's see how.

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How to Survive College Admission Stress

It's that time of year, the daffodils are blooming, the lilacs and cherry trees are preparing to bud, and families with high school seniors are trying hard to not lose their minds. Does the college admission process have to be like this? Here are some ideas for keeping your cool (and helping your child do the same) until all decisions are in.

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Surviving College Rejection Letters: It Can Be Done

Following up on my recent blog post on handling college admission stress, in this post, I get right down to the tough, but necessary business of handling rejection. No one likes it, but given the sharp increase in the number of college applications, and the fact that most, especially the elite, highly competitive schools, have not increased their class size, it's a statistical fact of life: rejection letters will happen. But it's what happens after the rejection that matters most. Here are tips for parents and students to stay on track and not get derailed by misinterpreting the meaning when a college says no.

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Taking the Stress Out of College Finals: National Stress Øut Week

College can be stressful enough, add in exams and this can tip the scales for students. Now, there is a national initiative to change all of that. This week is National Stress Øut Week-- a week of fun activities and education about mental health to keep college students in balance despite the weight of exams. Here's a piece I wrote on Huffington Post.

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A Great Review for Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: Curled Up With a Good Book

I love Curled Up With a Good Book (curledup.com). And I'm so grateful to them for a lovely review for Freeing Yourself from Anxiety: Four Simple Steps to Overcome Worry and Create the Life You Want. Thank you so much!

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Great Interview with WNPR's Faith Middleton

 

I had a great conversation with Connecticut Public Radio host, Faith Middleton, on April 27th, click here to listen to the program. 

 

 

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After-the-Fact Mindfulness: Finding the Pause Button, Better Late Than Never

Ever had a bad morning that stays with you? I did, and I learned a lot from it-- about myself. Check out this piece I wrote on Huffington Post about patience, kindness, love and driveway etiquette. 

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How to Overcome Apology-Phobia

Given our propensity for hurting each other -- usually inadvertently through our clumsiness or our being inconsiderate -- getting good at apologizing should be standard-issue emotional equipment for membership in the human race. And it is. Any one can do it. Here are six strategies for letting those two most powerful words: I'm sorry, come out of your mouth. 

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Anxiety 101: Don't Let Your Amygdala Ruin Your Day

Life is stressful enough. Worry really is optional. Check out this piece I wrote for Huffington Post on how to not let your amygdala (your worry brain) ruin your day. 

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A Back to School Twitter Chat with The Mother Company

Please join me this Friday August 24th at 11 am Pacific/2 pm Eastern to get your back to school questions answered when I chat with The Mother Company on Twitter #MOCOChat

Hope to see you there!

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8 Strategies to Complain Your Way Into a Happier Relationship

Could a toilet seat lid start a revolution or a romance in a marriage? Both are possible. The choice is yours. Learning how to work together in a relationship will take you where you want to go. Sometimes you've got to complain that the lid is up, if you want it down, but there are "best practices" in complaining which will help the work, work. Here's a piece I wrote for Huffington Post that takes your relationship beyond toilet seat lids, toothpaste tube squeezing practices and beds (made or unmade)--  to the real deal: honoring and respecting  each other's preferences.

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How to (Best) Handle Criticism

None of us like to be told what we've done wrong, and yet, this is often a great way to learn and grow. How do we handle criticism best? Here are some ideas from my conversation with Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner on her program, A Better You. 

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Overcoming Procrastination: 7 Strategies to Get the Job Done, Today

procrastinationIf only we could list procrastination as a skill on our resumé. We've all been practicing diligently for years, and now qualify as experts, thanks to the internet and all it's must-see nooks and crannies. But don't despair, there's hope for procrastinators.

Photo credit: Mait Jüriado / Foter / CC BY-NC-SA

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Freeing Your Heart from Anxiety: How to Not Bring Worry on Your Next Date

eharmony-datingDating is like job interviewing for love. No it's not at all like that, but that's how anxiety might tell the story. So much anticipation, so many unknowns, so many what if's. It's not just this date that feels like it's on the line, it feels like our very ability to be loved is what's at stake. In this Q and A I did with eHarmony.com, you'll find many ideas for preventing anxiety on a date by leaving the worry at home.

Read the full interview and share with anyone who might benefit from reading it, too!

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Overcoming Procrastination (Now)

procrastinationI love writing in my local coffee shop, it is somehow my anti-procrastination strategy. I get away from all the distractions I have at home like the laundry and dishes and sorting through my mail, and have some focused work time. The funny thing is, lots of people of busily working on their laptops at the coffee shop, but maybe no surprise, when I walk by I see a good array of delay tactics: people playing solitaire or looking at facebook. Why do we procrastinate when it makes us so miserable? And more importantly, what can we do to get back to work?

Watch this interview I did with Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner on "A Better You," and read this related blog post, Overcoming Procrastination: 7 Strategies to Get the Job Done ...Today.

 

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Better Living Through Empathy: National Day Without Stigma

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October 7th-13th is National Mental Health Awareness Week. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): "An estimated 26.2 percent of Americans ages 18 and older -- about one in four adults -- suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. When applied to the 2004 U.S. Census residential population estimate for ages 18 and older, this figure translates to 57.7 million people."  With numbers this high, one would imagine that talking about mental health concerns would be as matter of fact as talking about a sore throat, or knee replacement surgery-- and as no-fault.  As anyone who has debated whether to tell friends or boss about their depression or anxiety knows, we're not nearly there yet. 

Stigma is the obstacle. On October 9th, the grassroots organization, activeminds.org is holding a National Day Without Stigma. Removing stigma isn't just good for those who suffer with a mental disorder, it is essential for all of us.

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Lies My Anxiety Told Me: The Bear, The Psychologist and an Impractical Purple Skirt

bearPeople are always asking me why I became a therapist, and an anxiety therapist to boot. Perhaps this will explain:

I've had two close calls in life. One with a bear, one with a purple skirt.

First the skirt. The year was 1968. I was in first grade.

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Overcoming Vacation Anxiety: How to Get Your Inner Workaholic to Take a Break

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Vacations are great in theory, I just don't have time to take one! We all want to get away, but it's a challenge to get away from our work when our work is holding on tight (and maybe we just need to see this one project through, but we'll take a break when it's done, promise!). Here are the do's and don'ts of making vacations work so you don't have to.

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Workaholics Anonymous

WorkaholicWe praise people like Bill Gates that are "workaholics", but many studies show the negative effects of what is a real condition, being addicted to work.

Watch this Huffington Post Live discussion on how to get out of the corner of workaholicism, and read a related blog post: How to Get Your Inner Workaholic to Take a Break. There's a better life waiting for you.

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